Lots of sex-having babes mistakenly think the joy of sex toys starts and ends with their buzzy BFF. Well, spoiler alert: You will realise that this is not true, once you start to incorporate toys that are a little more… advanced, such as ball gags, chastity belts, and nipple clamps.

But getting your first kinky toy or toys can be challenging for newbies as there’s so much more than just hopping online, reading a few reviews, and comparing prices. The following guide will help you get kinky safely.

Covering the Basics

Whether just a kink-curious or a BDSM-enthusiast, enhance your sexual pleasure in the bedroom with safe and fun bondage equipment. One of the main reasons why people decide to spice up their sex life with bondage gear is the unparalleled intense physical stimulation that goes with it.

Let’s imagine you want to cover your partner’s eyes. Sure, you could simply use your hands or a necktie. However, if you purchase a blindfold, your partner’s view will be fully blocked. Their entire body will become even more sensitive to sounds, scents, and touch. Your kisses, licks, and touches will feel a lot more exciting and enjoyable!

Experimenting with additional BDSM products, such as feather ticklers or pinwheels, allows you to give and receive sensations that cannot be replicated in any other way.

On the other hand, lightly spanking your lover with amusing BDSM toys such as floggers or paddles can transmit vibrations through their erogenous zones. This pulls circulation to their skin, increasing their sensitivity to touch.

There are some health benefits too. Psychological pleasure is one of them. Being in control and having your partner completely at your mercy, unaware of all the naughty, dirty things you have in store for them will make them thrilled and aroused. They’ll anticipate your every move and find every touch, lick, and spank extremely exciting.

Getting the right set of bondage supplies can be a great starting point for introducing role-play in your bedroom. This way you can explore the power dynamic within your relationship. You can be the dominant one — the ‘dom’ — or the submissive one, the ‘sub,’ or even trying both roles and being what’s known as ‘switch.’

The most important aspect, however, is the safety. BDSM gear is specifically designed to enhance bondage, humiliation, pain, and pleasure without causing lasting or permanent injury.

Best BDSM Toys for Intense Play

The bondage equipment range is enormous these days but generally speaking, every item will fit into one of three main categories presented below.

Restraints

Items like bondage kits, handcuffs, blindfolds, ball gags, hoods, bindings, bondage tape, sex swings, and spreader bars are all part of this category. As its name implies, these toys are designed to restrain a person and make them writhe helplessly in agony (or pleasure!).

The gentlest type of restraint toys are things like bondage tape, satin ties, and sashes. At the other extreme, you’ll find metal restraints like real steel handcuffs and spreader bars. These are far stricter and should only be used once you become more experienced.

Simulators

Some adult bondage gear is intended to excite a person in some way, whether pleasurable, painful, or both. This category includes whips, paddles, riding crops, floggers, ticklers, pinwheels, nipple and clit clamps. Cock and ball toys, vibrators, prostate massagers, butt plugs, and remote-controlled vibrators are also regarded as simulators.

These ultimate pleasure toys are designed to provide a sweet agony, depending on how they are used! While some stimulators, such as wireless vibrators, are quite standard, toys such as whips, loggers, and cock rings can cause greater pain and should be used with caution.

Fetish

Last but not least, the fetish category includes devices designed to provide extremely high levels of excitement and is often only appropriate for couples with extensive BDSM expertise. This category contains electro toys (battery-powered devices that provide unpleasant but non-lethal shocks), electro nipple clamps, electro vibrators and butt plugs, as well as electro wands.

There are also medical fetish toys. These include speculums, pussy pumps, sounding rods, enema equipment, penis extenders, and cock cages. They are not for beginners and should be used with utmost caution!

Introducing BDSM Toys into Your Relationship

If BDSM isn’t currently part of your sex life, it’s important you know the right way to introduce it into your relationship. Surprising your partner with a sex toy from time to time can be fun, but when it comes to BDSM equipment, don’t. It’s best to have an open, frank discussion before utilizing any kinky toy.

Making open-ended suggestions is a safe method to test the waters and figure out where you and your partner can start. You get to see things from your partner’s perspective. If they’re comfortable with it, you may start with some super-sensual love play and then go to more sophisticated BDSM play if you enjoy it.

Also, discuss your comfort zone and ‘boundaries’. This is critically important. It’s important that you know how far you can escalate things before you get started.